Let me ask you something. How many
times have you been asked, “Are you seeing anyone?” Or “When are you going to
settle down?” I absolutely despise this question. Growing up my mother always
told me one thing. She told me that if she could have one wish it would be that
her three daughters would never depend on a man. This has stuck with me. My
mother married at a relatively young age about twenty two. My grandmother was pregnant
at sixteen and married. However still at family functions my career and aspirations
are NEVER brought up. It’s always so anyone special in your life. I’m lucky
compared to my sister she is constantly asked this question. It’s because at
the age of twenty five she is considered an old dame. People are surprised to
see her without a ring or without a baby in her belly. I am only twenty so I
still have time according to them. What is this and how did this start? Why
must my relationship be my goal? (I am not judging those who want to be parents
or simply want to be married. I just want to be seen as more than a child
bearer.) Well this brings me to my next reality show, 19 Kids and Counting.
The basis of the show is about the Duggars and their nineteen children. Right now the Duggars are everywhere. From their eldest daughter recently married and having her first child to their second daughter recently married with a child on the way. They can be seen on the televisions screens, all over the magazines, and easily accessed online. On the show Michelle, the mother, raises her nineteen children with her husband Jim Bob.
The way the Duggars live remind me a lot of the creation story and how women were affected by it. Eve was a so called trouble maker because Eve ate the forbidden fruit. Eve could not contain herself or her desires. Women could then not be trusted. They were sex temptresses! This idea still has a form today. In the Duggar family, their children can only go on a dates if they are supervised. The supervisor’s jobs is to ensure that nothing happens on these dates. Sometimes the supervisor is a brother or sister that is much younger than them. Could this be because women are sexually charged and would be unable to contain themselves? Possibly. Another role of children courting is that the only affection that can happen is side hugs. Side hugs are to limit sexual desires. They must not front hug, hold hands, or kiss. Yet at the same time these individuals are marrying at a young age and within months of marriage are having their children. What does it say about the women in this family? You can only have one relationship and once your married you must pop out children. This limits women because once they have their child they are stay at home mothers. Yes this show exist in 2015. This has yet to happen on the show but I wonder what would happen if a daughter or even a son stated this was not their lifestyle. What if they didn’t want to marry young or have children?
The basis of the show is about the Duggars and their nineteen children. Right now the Duggars are everywhere. From their eldest daughter recently married and having her first child to their second daughter recently married with a child on the way. They can be seen on the televisions screens, all over the magazines, and easily accessed online. On the show Michelle, the mother, raises her nineteen children with her husband Jim Bob.
The way the Duggars live remind me a lot of the creation story and how women were affected by it. Eve was a so called trouble maker because Eve ate the forbidden fruit. Eve could not contain herself or her desires. Women could then not be trusted. They were sex temptresses! This idea still has a form today. In the Duggar family, their children can only go on a dates if they are supervised. The supervisor’s jobs is to ensure that nothing happens on these dates. Sometimes the supervisor is a brother or sister that is much younger than them. Could this be because women are sexually charged and would be unable to contain themselves? Possibly. Another role of children courting is that the only affection that can happen is side hugs. Side hugs are to limit sexual desires. They must not front hug, hold hands, or kiss. Yet at the same time these individuals are marrying at a young age and within months of marriage are having their children. What does it say about the women in this family? You can only have one relationship and once your married you must pop out children. This limits women because once they have their child they are stay at home mothers. Yes this show exist in 2015. This has yet to happen on the show but I wonder what would happen if a daughter or even a son stated this was not their lifestyle. What if they didn’t want to marry young or have children?
I also wonder where are priorities are. When I picked up this magazine, "I thought wow why is their newlywed story taking over the cover of PEOPLE." Why is the American sniper trial shoved into the corner.
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